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October 11, 2017

I AM SORRY IS A PAINLESS REBUILDER

I am sorry, my friend


















I am sorry! I am sorry! I am sorry!
The above is not strange to anyone including a child but there comes a lot of questions with the above: When you say “I am sorry”, do you really mean it that you are sorry. Do you take actions that will justify the claim of been sincerely sorry or it’s just mere words of the mouth?
Many conflicts and intertribal problems would have been resolved without any crash of power but due to pride, people see it as a humiliation to say sorry to someone they have wronged or someone they feel they did not wrong in any way. Nevertheless, the truth of the matter is that saying sorry has resolved some wars and reconciled homes, relations and nations.
If peace must, therefore be in the land, then there must be people who are and must be ready to say sorry whenever they go wrong or even when they are right just to calm the rage of the other person
Saying “I am sorry” does not change your identity, neither does it show that you are a weak person, in fact, that is a great strength because you just calmed an angry man with it and peace in that relationship was restored.
Learn to say sorry even to people you are older than including your children, don’t claim to a father or mother, and you make use of that opportunity to oppress your kids and shout at them because you are their parents rather than be humble to say “my child I am sorry”.
As a boss in the office, for you to have a great respect and cordial relationship between you and your subordinates then you must learn to say sorry if you discover your wrong or your wrong is being found out by the person under you. It does not reduce you as their boss but it makes your subordinates to be very friendly and free with you. This will create room for great improvement because due to your freeness with them they can easily bring up ideas that will keep your company going or try to share with you some useful steps to take that may want to crash down the growth of the company. A little sorry has added more to your safety and taking you away from failure.
As a religious leader in the church or mosque or any gathering that relates with the worship of God, do you try to assume the most-perfect person without mistakes? That’s not true, only God is the perfect being, as long as you are still a human, you are bound to still make mistakes, making a mistake is not a crime but do you accept your mistakes when it is made known to you. Saying sorry does not dethrone you from that great height and position that you are occupying. Learn to say sorry sir and ma.
Go, say sorry to that person you have offended, that good friend of yours that your relationship has grown sour because of pride of not being willing to be the first to say sorry. Go back to that your fiancĂ©e or hubby, reconcile.  Be a peace restorer by saying that sorry. Bear the blame if you really value that friendship or relationship that has been broken down by your pride.
Sorry has power, it's a builder and restorer.  Say it out loud and restore peace in the mist of that crises.

September 06, 2017

Common Sense Is Not Common But Scarce!

     
common sense is not common in any way

When I see some behavior and response of people at some point, I wonder what their state of reasoning is made up of. You wonder why they skip so low to do certain things that their senses ordinarily should have told them it ought not to be so and I came to a valid conclusion that COMMON SENSE is scarce and not common.
Often times you must have heard people say, “you ought to have used your COMMON SENSE”, COMMON SENSE should teach you this or that. I then decided to study and make a deep search if the particular sense that regarded as been common is in essence worthy of the accolade “common”.
Common sense from the dictionary meaning says: it’s an internal or inbuilt sense, believed to be the sense by which information from the five senses is clearly understood and given an interpretation. Another definition puts it this way as an “ordinary sensible understanding which allows plain understanding and without which a good/sensible decision can’t be made.
The definitions above tends to be contrary to our society today because men have devised several wrong mentality and approach to life issues, rendering common sense that has been given to us by God to be of non-effect in the application. The sense is actually regarded as common; meaning is not expensive or it’s free of charge but yet it is lacking in men and women in the society today and that’s the reason for disorderliness, maltreatment, a breakdown of law and order.
 It is lack of this common sense that has made the political class so insensible to the plights of the common person in the society. The absence of this common sense makes a politician cart away several millions of public funds into private pockets thereby making the masses bedridden in poverty, lack and starvation and no one have the authority to question them because of fear. They save for several generations unborn but the masses who voted them into power are suffering.

August 17, 2017

CHEAP DATA BUNDLE @POSSIBILITY CONCEPT NIGERIA


Affordable data bundle and can last up to 3 months, please read patiently while I give you a few details.
On possibility concept, you can buy data bundle, recharge,  send bulk sms, pay bills like dstv subscription , and you can do it for yourself and also for others. You can transfer money to any bank in Nigeria from this platform too. But, I will dwell more on the data bundle because that’s only were you can get more benefits
You can get 500mb for 350, 1gig for 650, 2gig for 1200 for mtn and lower in other networks and the truth of it is that it is valid for up to 3 months of purchase, Very true because that’s what I have been using for some months now and decided to tell you about it
FOR REGISTRATION 
If you click on this link  https://www.clubkash.com/possibilities/Register.asp it will take you to the registration page as in the picture below where your full name, phone number, and password is required.




After registration, you will be taken to your home page that looks like this



Then you can move on to start buying data bundle and other stuffs.
You can deposit money into your wallet online by using any of the following means of payment in this image


But more advisable, make payment using your master or verve card online, you don’t need to be afraid that they will steal your money and all that, I have been using it for some months now and no regret using it, or if you think it’s a fraud then check my facebook account to know my kind of person, MY FACEBOOK ACCOUNT

Another means is by transfer of credit but that one may not be that advisable. And this means works only for Mtn and Etisalat users.
The advantage of deposit using your atm card is that you buy for others as well but for transfer of credit, it can only work for the lines that were registered and that's the line you will get the data on.


August 01, 2017

Take The Decision Now

Its been said failure to plan is equivalent to planing to fail likewise one's decision or indecision has effect on a person or a thing.
Procrastination has been a major

July 25, 2017

CAN YOU MARRY YOU?


Writing this message from the depth of my heart, trusting the Holy Spirit to chisel us and polish us into the full stature of Christ.
I can never forget the day the Holy Spirit asked me that question. It was after my graduation from the University. I was single. I mean not even in any relationship at the time.
I daily bombarded the heavens with my cry for marital settlement.
One day, I heard in my spirit *Esther can you marry you?*
I have never heard nor read anything like that before.
*Can you marry you?*
I just laughed at my thoughts.
After reflecting for a short while I got the understanding.
In simpler form, it means *If you are a man, Can you marry a typical woman like yourself? Are you marriageable?
Wow! That took me a lot of time to reflect on.
I got the message the Holy Spirit was trying to communicate to me.
With great joy, I listed out all the wonderful things about my personality and character.
At the end I smiled, feeling very beautiful.
*Look beyond your good sides* I was prompted.
My mood changed immediately.
Most of us hate to give our dark side some attention.
I noted my bad attitudes...
I do yell at my siblings when I am angry, which I don't do to annoying-outsiders,
I can be full of my ways sometimes,
I am stubborn. I will do what I choose to do when I feel like it.
This is the part of me I never took to heart until that day.
"Imagine you get married to someone who yell at you when he's angry, he doesn't listen to your advice and very stubborn husband; how would your marriage turn out"
"It won't work" I admitted.
That was how I started learning not to yell at people who infuriates me. I just take a walk away or pray for self-control under my breath. Sometimes I cried instead of shouting at someone who yell at me especially elderly people.
While preparing for my Youth service, my mentor Pastor Muyiwa Olufemi had a conversation with me. After celebrating all my good qualities, he said;
"...You are a strong willed person. This trait is a strength and could be a weakness. I advise you to work on it. This trait is not totally bad if only you don't allow the negative side of it take you over..."
It hurt me deeply.
But I wasn't surprised.
Being a strong-willed person helped me overcome peer-pressure while growing up. It helped me to stand through thorns without compromising my values. It helped me fit into the position my father"s demise left for me to assume.
Being the first born, my mom treats me like her little sister and partner. She groomed me to lead, tutor and be a disciplinarian for my siblings. Being a strong-willed person was a strength to me. I could exert my authority.
I am a very determined and focused woman. Distractions don't appeal to me.
The bad sad of this strength is what I call *unbending* *unyielding*
I kept praying that the Lord should break me and mould me.
Looking back now, I can remember all the stubborn set of people God threw my way to *bend* me.
I dislike them. I refused to bend to the stubbornness in them. I acted like I am up to the task till someone bows eventually.
When they prove stubborn with me, I shut down without giving in.
I didn't understand the workings of the Holy Spirit in me on time until later.
During my youth Service, the Lord made me go through some unpalatable circumstances. I was cheated, humiliated, yet the Holy Spirit told me to either *endure by keeping quiet or make peace even when I am not at fault*
That was hard!
Thank God for that season of moulding.
Fast forward to few Months into my courtship, I and my husband had a misunderstanding on the phone. I was angry and yelled at him on the phone telling him not to call my phone.
He called me the next day, I ignored.
The second day, I refused to pick.
The third day, I was expecting his calls but he stopped calling.
I got troubled in my heart. Chai!
I have overstepped my boundary.
I have over-reacted.
The right thing would have been for me to call him but I couldn't.
I was ashamed of myself. How could I overreact like that! I thought I am MADE!
I kept checking my phone at short intervals hoping he would call.
I got tired. Yet I didn't want to be the one calling him to make peace.
I thought this stubbornness is done with. I reasoned and turned sober.
In the evening he called me and we settled.
I was so happy yet I felt very bad and angry with myself. What exactly is that *thing* in me that makes me unyielding?
My husband was more of disappointed in me than annoyed.
"Unbending and unyielding is a sign of UNBROKENNESS" He said
It was the first and the last during our courtship.

July 24, 2017

EveryOne Needs Somebody

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Everyone needs Somebody

















Man (male and female inclusive) was created to be a social being. That is, he has the ability to be interactive with his environment and the people in it. It was the resultant effect of Adam’s loneliness and need for a companion that brought about the need for a companion and the social behavior of man.
No man in life has ever achieved anything independently without the need or input of other people no matter the knowledge of that person. No general can single-handedly go to war without the support of other soldiers. There can’t be a government without the people and so on. So the existence of one person is needful for the companionship of the other person.
 No matter how successful a person thinks that he or she has attained in life and needs no one’s contribution, such a one is heading for doom’s day. Success without a successor as it is been said amounts to total failure,  therefore everyone needs somebody.
Don’t get mad at people when they tell you they feel so lonely and depressed, not really their fault because it’s just an expression of that social being in them seeking for attention, seeking for a companion to fill the gap that has engulfed such a one.
Life has lots of pains and frustration, filled with failures and disappointments and most times requires the companionship of a fellow to help one get out of frustration.

It’s in an effort for a man to socialize and deal with loneliness that brought about the invention of social media. A platform where people can interact with each other, get to meet new people, let go unprofitable companionship and look for people who can really fill that loneliness in them. If you get to ask some people what their hobbies are, you get to see kinds of stuff like meeting new friends, traveling, chatting and a whole lot more. In a way, it could be seen as hubbies but in its real sense it’s sense, it’s just an expression of the social need of man and the ways to fill that vacuum.
Therefore, we can strongly agree that each one of us needs a person who can listen, give attention and really wants to know at each point in time how we are feeling. No man is an island
People complain that attention is not given to them or that they are been neglected
At some point in time, we are on the verge of giving up on life, don’t give up my friend, a companion is all you need to sparkle up the greatness in you.
It may look as though, life and everyone is against you. It could be at times frustrating that there is no one to speak to his or her hearing. At times, you are so desperate to speak to someone about your problems, you just needed the heart to hear you out of your pains and probably tell you


Everyone needs a shoulder to lean on.
Everyone needs a heart that could comprehend his or her torments.
Everyone needs a listening ear that can hear him or her out of their life’s issues.
Try as much as possible to be that individual whom, if individuals share their torments with you, they get calmed and find reasons to be alive!
Be that shoulder that individuals can incline toward and discover trust.
Be that listening ear that is prepared to listen to individuals of their disappointments.
Be that heart that can be effortlessly broken at the plight of individuals. 

Learn to be concerned about others and not been so concerned about yourself alone

July 21, 2017

Poverty Is Not Just About Money

poverty is not just about cash. Oxford University in Britain says destitution additionally implies not having enough sustenance, training, social insurance and haven.

Recently, Oxford University discharged its most recent measure of destitution. It is known as the Multidimensional Poverty Index, or MPI. Scientists assembled data from 108 nations, where 78 percent of the total populace lives. Oxford says in regards to 1.6 billion of those individuals are what it calls "multi-dimensionally poor." It says most live in country ranges.

Sabina Alkire is the leader of the Oxford Poverty and Human Development Initiative. She portrays multidimensional destitution.

"I mean a man who has distinctive things turning out badly in the meantime. They won't not have numerous advantages and they may have hunger. What's more, they won't not have over five years of tutoring. In this way, a few things are turning out badly in their life in the meantime. That is being multi-dimensionally poor. It's not only one."

The MPI found that in almost 50 creating nations, half of the needy individuals ought to be called "down and out" - as it were, having an outrageous absence of fundamental expectations for everyday comforts.

June 17, 2017

SHOW SOME KINDNESS TO THAT FELLOW



Life has never been comfortable no matter how poor or how rich a person may be, no matter how influential or not know a person is in the society, Every one Needs Somebody. People make up the life we live and that’s a true fact because the man was created to be a social being and not an island. Don't become so concerned about yourself alone because your life is a bit better than that of others and you feel others can help themselves while you do same to yourself. But it ought not to be so, there is need to help one another. The need of a person might be quite different from others.
Be a helping hand to make someone else great even though you have not attained the great height you desire and wish to get to, it might surprise you that the person you assist today might be your saviour tomorrow because no one can predict tomorrow.
I read the story of a wealthy man who is a generous person and assisted a lot of people and established them in businesses and were doing so well in the things he has helped them do. Life went on and on but something happened. This wealthy man took some loans from a bank to carry out a business transaction that will fetch him some million dollars but unknown to him, they were fraudsters and he lost that loan and was back to nothing when the bankers came for their money. But the people he had established came to his aid and he was back to business.
let's assume he refused to help anyone, his life would have ended like that because no one to come to his aid but the people he had earlier on established came to his aid.
My friend, you don’t know what life holds in store for tomorrow. Use every opportunity you have and do good to people whether they deserve it or not.
That little kindness of yours in a way of counselling from your heart of heart can help deliver a youth from becoming a menace and public disturbance to the society. It is not every time you shout at a youth for doing wrong, at times there is need to seat the youth down and explain things, explain the danger in what they are getting themselves involved in. Let them see reasons why you need them to have a change of life.
That five minutes prayers for that friend passing through some storms of life could heal a great wound that many words can't heal because words at times have its own limitation. I have been in a situation that people counsel me but I laugh over the counsel they give because it something well known to me but at that point, all I need is just someone to pray for me, someone to just tell me “ALL WILL BE WELL”.
Give some ideas to that man or woman that will help him or her stand on their own. The ideas you give to that person will go a long way to not to help only the person you gave the ideas but to others around him.
Be kind enough to ask people “how are you”, don't always conclude that they are fine just because they always smile and pretend that all is well, the pains of the heart kills faster than wounds of the body. The smile of people does not always mean “all is well”, at times is just a way of saying “I cant kill myself over things I know I have no power to correct or make comfortable”.
Make somebody smile today and let them have a cause for thanking God that he created you.
NO KINDNESS IS TOO SMALL. They are seeds that will definitely germinate even after your death. Show some kindness and kindness will come to you.

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