I AM SORRY IS A PAINLESS REBUILDER

I am sorry, my friend

I am sorry! I am sorry! I am sorry!

The above is not strange to anyone including a child but there comes a lot of questions with the above: When you say “I am sorry”, do you really mean it that you are sorry. Do you take actions that will justify the claim of been sincerely sorry or it’s just mere words of the mouth?

Many conflicts and intertribal problems would have been resolved without any crash of power but due to pride, people see it as a humiliation to say sorry to someone they have wronged or someone they feel they did not wrong in any way. Nevertheless, the truth of the matter is that saying sorry has resolved some wars and reconciled homes, relations and nations.

If peace must, therefore be in the land, then there must be people who are and must be ready to say sorry whenever they go wrong or even when they are right just to calm the rage of the other person

Saying “I am sorry” does not change your identity, neither does it show that you are a weak person, in fact, that is a great strength because you just calmed an angry man with it and peace in that relationship was restored.

Learn to say sorry even to people you are older than including your children, don’t claim to a father or mother, and you make use of that opportunity to oppress your kids and shout at them because you are their parents rather than be humble to say “my child I am sorry”.

As a boss in the office, for you to have a great respect and cordial relationship between you and your subordinates then you must learn to say sorry if you discover your wrong or your wrong is being found out by the person under you. It does not reduce you as their boss but it makes your subordinates to be very friendly and free with you. This will create room for great improvement because due to your freeness with them they can easily bring up ideas that will keep your company going or try to share with you some useful steps to take that may want to crash down the growth of the company. A little sorry has added more to your safety and taking you away from failure.

As a religious leader in the church or mosque or any gathering that relates with the worship of God, do you try to assume the most-perfect person without mistakes? That’s not true, only God is the perfect being, as long as you are still a human, you are bound to still make mistakes, making a mistake is not a crime but do you accept your mistakes when it is made known to you. Saying sorry does not dethrone you from that great height and position that you are occupying. Learn to say sorry sir and ma.

Go, say sorry to that person you have offended, that good friend of yours that your relationship has grown sour because of pride of not being willing to be the first to say sorry. Go back to that your fiancée or hubby, reconcile.  Be a peace restorer by saying that sorry. Bear the blame if you really value that friendship or relationship that has been broken down by your pride.

Sorry has power, it's a builder and restorer.  Say it out loud and restore peace in the mist of that crises.

THE BLACKMAIL EPISODE 5

The blackmail Episode 5

The following week Dave travelled to his uncle’s house at Okoko, which was about two hours journey from his father’s house. The two hours journey has seen to be day’s journey due to the traffic jam that is been experienced almost in the whole cities of Lagos State on a daily basis. Dave was joyful that he was moving to a new environment but at the same time felt sad because he was on a mission for destruction and not for peace.

At arrival, Mrs Jackson and her two daughters welcomed him warmly into their house. He felt the love of a family and the love he had missed not having younger siblings, as Jane and Janet always kept him busy before he started going to work at his uncle’s business centre. They lived so happily in the house and he learned things quickly at the business place of his uncle.

It came to a point that he thought of calling his father on phone to inform him that he had no more interest again in the evil plans he came to execute due to the love he has received. However, at intervals, the thought of being rich always beclouded his thoughts over having a good name and being good.

Three months later

Mr Peter, on the other hand, was worried over his son’s reluctance in not executing the plans as quickly as earlier agree before he left for Okoko and this made him so angry with Mrs Jackson that he now shouts on phone whenever he called Mrs Jackson

This woman must have charmed my son. I knew it that this woman will change and now that change has affected my son that he no longer calls me as he did when he got to Okoko newly. I need to do something urgently before this gets out of hand, Mr Peter reasoned within himself.

At Mrs Resident

Dave sit down we need to talk.

I hope all is well Aunty? Dave asked

All is not well Dave

Why have your father and his brother become so hateful toward me and everything I do, and this has been on for long now ever since you came here although I decided to keep everything away from you, but now its getting me really tired.

Aunty, you should have told me about their attitude change towards you long before now!

Aunty, don’t mind them, just focus on yourself and let them be. I am always here for you. They can be angry but can't-do anything evil to you.
I am even calling my dad now to warn him Dave said to Mrs Jackson

Please don’t do that to avoid more problems and shouting on phone. But Dave insisted on calling his father.

Hello Daddy! Good morning son

Daddy nothing is good about this morning, why have you and uncle James decided to make life miserable for Uncle’s wife?

Son, what has come over you? Are you becoming stupid or something? Remember am still your father.

And so what! daddy?

 Hey things have spoilt oh, look at my son of yesterday shouting at his father just because he travelled to Okoko

Mrs Jackson collected the phone from Dave in haste and gave him a resounding slap that echoed like the fire service siren when there is an emergency fire outbreak.

Aunty, why did you slap me? Dave asked with a shivering voice.

Yes! I slapped you because you don’t talk to your father in such manner no matter what he has done.

And one more word from you again, Dave I will slap you again and you will leave this house.

Dave angrily left the sitting home and went into his room.

What happened next?
READ EPISODE 6

THE BLACKMAIL EPISODE 4

The Blackmail Episode 4

Mr Peter and his son were done eating and were walking down to the furniture shop.

 Daddy I think is better if we sell off the business, the house and move out of Lagos to another city rather than taking over it forcefully. We may endanger our lives and risk being caught by the police so easily.

That is a good idea, his father; Mr Peter nodded his head in acceptance.

When I get to there, I will behave nice and then try to gain access to all needed documents of the house and business.

Wow! Mr Peterson exclaimed. My son, your head is really at work, great idea!

Ha daddy, are you trying to say my head has not been working ever since you gave birth to me?

He tapped him and said that’s not what I mean Son, I meant to say that the ideas coming from you are really great ones and will really assist to execute the peacefully without any trace.

Mr Peter called James the following day on phone to inform him about the concluded plans with his Son Dave and that he will inform Mr Jackson’s wife about Dave coming to stay with them and helping in the business.

At Mrs Jackson’s resident

Her phone rang once and she picked it up

Good morning my in-law Mrs Jackson greeted.

How are you doing my wife and your two daughters?

We are fine just missing my late husband and the business he left behind I can’t handle it alone as a woman….. Sobbing

Stop crying, you just have to be strong. Your daughters will need your strength for them to be strong too.

You still have his brothers around and for the business; you don’t really need to worry much.

I have discussed with my Son Dave and my brother Mr James, for my Son to come over to assist in the business since he is my only child.

But, how will you cope in the shop since he has been assisting you for three years now? Mrs Jackson asked with much concern in her tune

That should not bother you, I have made plans for a boy that will come to assist me and besides it will not be proper bringing in a stranger to stay with you and your daughters, that’s why I thought my son is the best person to fit in the assistance.

Thank you so much, my in-law, I am so grateful for the concern you have shown me since the death of my husband. God bless you.

It's nothing my wife, you are my younger’s wife and I will do anything and everything to make you happy.

Am grateful sir, so when is he coming over to assist in the business because ever since returned from the burial I have been at home always.

By next week, he will come over Mr Peter responded.

Thank you so much, sir, greet your wife for me. She will definitely receive your greetings Mr Peter replied as they bade each other goodbye and ended the call.

Hahaha! Mr Peter laughed, “The calmness of a Scorpion when it is resting does not mean it’s harmless”

She will feel the scorpion sting very soon; he said to himself and laughed mischievously again.

THE BLACKMAIL EPISODE 5

WHO ARE YOU?

Who are you, friend?

The above question is very common to you and I. Every one of us must have come across it at one point in time or the other ever since we grew up and started having the sense of reasoning.
Am so sure you must have come across two people in a serious quarrel section advancing to the next stage of a fight and you get to hear “Who are you” at intervals. In addition, if you have ever gotten to a police or military checkpoint at odd hours you get to hear the same question. We can then firmly come to a point of unison that the above question is a means of identifying who a person is or what a person is stuffed of.
I now ask you, who are you?
I am not trying to ask for your name but for your personality. Answering the son or daughter of a governor or a highly placed person is nice but far better if you really understand whom you are beyond the name recognition.
However, in case you do not know who you are or what God deposited in you right from creation that you should be, then hear me and hear me clearly. God did not waste his time during creation to create a fool or a nobody. Yes, I understand that the situations around you and the people you associate with have given you a tag “NO-BODY” due to how hopeless you may appear to them.  Your situation might have given you a new name and covered your real identity. That does not stop what God has made you be from creation.
Yes, everything in the now might be moving in the opposite direction and you are beginning to come to terms with the accolade “Good-For-Nothing”. No sir! No ma! you are not a good for nothing person. You are good for something. Go ahead, discover the greatness in you, and do a harnessing of your strength.